Connecting with your students has to be a purposeful focus as you aim to create an environment of mutual respect.
Let’s face it—school isn’t always at the top of every student’s list of favorite places to be. But as a teacher, you have the power to shift their perspective by building personal connections that make them feel valued and understood.
When students know you care about them as individuals, and you’re able to deliver content in a way that is meaningful to them, they’re far more likely to engage with the material and invest in their learning.
Here are some simple ways to connect with your students and make your classroom a space they look forward to being in:
1 | Step Into Their World
One of the easiest ways to show you care is by taking an interest in the things your students enjoy. If they can’t stop talking about a new book series, read it, and use it to spark conversations. It doesn’t have to be educational; it just has to be real.
If they play sports or participate in extracurricular activities, attend an event or ask how their last performance or game went. Take an interest in them outside of school, and they are more likely to take an interest in you within it.
2 | Pick Topics They Care About
Students are much more likely to get into school when lessons feel relevant to their lives.
- Use high-interest paired passages on topics students are excited about. The Sparkly Notebook offers paired passages on a variety of engaging themes that help students connect with the material while meeting academic standards.
- Adjust your examples to include their hobbies, favorite celebrities, or even memes they’re into. Even these kinds of seemingly inconsequential changes make learning feel personal and fun.
- When the holidays roll around, don’t pretend they don’t exist—find some fun, educational activities for your students to do to “celebrate.” For example, try The Sparkly Notebook’s digital escape rooms! These themed activities not only make learning exciting but also reinforce key skills like figurative language and reading comprehension in a way that feels like play.
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3 | Have Meaningful Conversations
Take time to listen to your students and create opportunities for them to share in a meaningful way.
Whether it’s an informal chat about their weekend or a deeper discussion sparked by a paired passage, these moments show students that their thoughts and opinions matter. Building this kind of dialogue fosters ongoing mutual respect.
4 | Be Real with Them
Students connect best with teachers who are authentic. Share your own experiences, tell funny (and appropriate!) stories, and let them see that you’re human, too.
When you’re genuine, it encourages students to open up and helps build a positive, collaborative classroom culture.
Important: Don’t confuse being real and kind with being soft on students. You should still have firm, fair expectations, but when that is combined with an honest real-ness, students are often happy to rise to your expectations.
Where Should You Start?
Start small—whether it’s reading the same books they’re reading, using engaging resources like paired passages and escape rooms, or simply listening to what’s important to them. Those little efforts add up and can make a big difference in how students feel about school—and about learning with you.
Want a fun activity to do with students as you get ready for New Year’s? Read about how to do some goal-setting with your students HERE. Goal setting is just another way that you can show students that you’re interested in what they’re interested in and want to help them get where they want to go!